RELATIONSHIP AND SEX
Modern Dating 101: What makes you a clown in today’s dating scene
April 24, 2020
When it comes to love, we do things far and beyond the norm. Who wouldn’t do that for love, right? Some become hopeless romantics, the Romeo and Juliets of this generation, and unknowingly, some people end up becoming the ‘clowns’ of this modern dating scene. Clownery in dating is just another term in the dating dictionary or terminologies like “ghosting.”
Clownery refers to any behavior that you know is bad for you or fundamentally stupid, but you still do it anyway. This generation hopes that there is still a positive outcome despite the red flags waving at you, thus the clownery. Clownery used to be memes about the foolish things you do for love until one day, people started sharing their own experiences about being a clown themselves or simply just come across someone who happens to be one aka their bestfriend who asks for pieces of advice on how to move on yet the next thing you’ll know they already got back together with their stupid ex.
Whether you just met someone, you started dating someone, or in a relationship already, you can still be exposed to clownery.
Which behaviors make you a clown in the modern dating scene? Let’s find out because who knows you might be already doing these things and still not be aware of it, yet.
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You talk a lot, go out together, and talk nonstop day and night, but the thing is you haven’t DTR’d or defined the relationship, yet. And you seem to be okay with it. As long as you enjoy each other’s company even though there is no label, you just go on with it. Too scared to know the truth or you simply just don’t care at all.
You just matched on a dating app site. Everything is quite going well. You have already exchanged numbers, talked about going out one day, but he just suddenly vanished into thin air. You have zero clue as to why he is not returning your calls and you just have been blocked in all his SNS. No goodbyes, no explanation, just gone. Ouch!
You have been telling everyone including your bestfriend that you are so done with him already. You even threw away all the stuff he gave you, from ‘in a relationship’ you changed your status on FB to ‘single,’ but one simple text everything goes back to square one. All your moving on efforts were thrown out at the window and everything is suddenly fine because you are a certified marupok.
Red flags? What red flags?
No matter how much you deny it, the universe has its way of presenting you red flags to save you from a heartbreak yet here you are eating red flags for breakfast. It can be a questionable motive that you ignored just to be with the person. You already know that something is not right, but you still ignored it. You seem to be enjoying every bad decision that you make in your life. Good luck with the heartache later on.
So, what if he has already hurt you a couple times? You always forgive him and let him hurt you again and again. You fight, forgive him, reconcile and fight again, and the cycle just goes on and on. You are one breakup away from saving yourself, girl!
Mr. Bad Boy vs. Mr. Nice Guy
For the times that you have to choose for a lifetime partner, you always go for the bad guys. At first you thought it was more thrilling than having a nice guy beside you but at the end of the day, they just give you nothing but headaches and heartaches. Told you so!
Avoid the “In a relationship” drama
Stop getting relationship problems with people you are not in a relationship with. Save yourself from so much drama.
No matter how much clownery you have dragged yourself into, always find the courage to walk away from it because you deserve so much better. It’s good for some laughs now, but at the end of the day, who wouldn’t want to end up with someone great, right?
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