RELATIONSHIP AND SEX
Ghosting: How do you move on from the one who ghosted you?
August 28, 2020
If you are looking for a sign to move on from that person, then this is the sign that you are looking for.
Ghosting is when your partner or fling suddenly disappears and leaves you hanging. No explanation, no nothing. Instead of ending the relationship mutually they just choose to just disappear leaving the other person full of questions and gravely devastated.
Ghosting may have been widely used by millennials, if you think that this can only take place in almost relationships, you are wrong. This can also occur in mutual relationships or even marriages.
For the ‘Ghoster,’ ghosting is the easiest way to escape a relationship. No explanations, no drama, whereas for the one ghosted, this is more devastating. You have no idea what went wrong. You are clueless about what you are going to do next.
How do you get over it?
How to start over is not actually the initial problem. The first thing you have to do is accept but how will you accept something that you have never foreseen? How will you accept that the emotion, time, and affection that you have invested were just thrown in the trash just like that? For one to be able to move on, you have to start with acceptance.
Apparently, there is no easier or faster way to move on. It takes time and it’s a process. You don’t skip steps to get through it, you actually have to get through everything. Also, don’t ever blame yourself.
As much as possible avoid things that would remind you of him. Avoid places, songs, food, or even items that can remind you of them. This way it helps you forget about them gradually.
People have their own way of getting through heartbreaks. Different people, different coping mechanisms.
How to avoid it?
Avoid casual dating. Don’t get yourself into a casual dating if you fear that you might get hurt in the process. Casual dating is temporary and it’s not for the faint-hearted.
Make sure you both set your expectations to avoid any disappointments. Clear your intentions from the very beginning.
The moment you feel that the feeling is not mutual anymore or is already getting dry, do communicate. Save yourself from headaches and heartbreaks.
Communication is the key. If you don’t feel anything anymore, call it quits but never ghost someone.
Remember the golden rule: treat others the way you wanted to be treated.
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