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We&rsquo;ve all heard the jokes about &ldquo;monster-in-laws,&rdquo; but for some people, dealing with toxic in-laws is no laughing matter. It&rsquo;s an exhausting, painful reality that can drain you emotionally and mentally. Many Filipino couples can relate to this suffocating environment, especially since extended households are a tradition in our culture. Madalas, nasa iisang compound lang ang magkakamag-anak, at minsan nga ay nasa iisang bahay pa. And although we love strengthening family ties, the major problem appears when our in-laws are, for lack of a better word, &ldquo;crazy.&rdquo;
If you&rsquo;re unlucky, maybe you&rsquo;ll have a mother-in-law who constantly criticizes your choices, a father-in-law who dismisses your feelings, or siblings-in-law who gossip about you. It&rsquo;s easy to cling to the hope that they&rsquo;ll accept you eventually. Sadly, people who thrive on conflict rarely change unless there are consequences, and that&rsquo;s where your partner&rsquo;s role should come in.
But what happens when the real problem isn&rsquo;t just the crazy in-laws? Paano na kapag &lsquo;yung asawa mo rin ang problema?
What happens when instead of standing up for you, they downplay your experiences, dismiss your feelings, or blame you for the conflict? They might even say things like, &ldquo;That&rsquo;s just how they are,&rdquo; or, &ldquo;You&rsquo;re overreacting.&rdquo; Toxic partners expect you to tolerate the disrespect just to keep the family happy, and when that happens, when they side with their family instead of you, it cuts deeper than any insult from an in-law ever could. Over time, this can affect your self-esteem, your sense of security in the relationship, and your trust in your partner.
When you find yourself in this setup, just know that no one should feel like they have to compete just to be treated with basic decency. If your in-laws are toxic and your partner is even worse, then they&rsquo;re not your real family. You&rsquo;re allowed to choose peace even if it means disappointing people who have no problem disappointing you.