We all know the collective experience of feeling bile rise in our throats whenever the thought of our current partner&rsquo;s past lover pops up into our minds. Nakakainis na nakakakaba na nakakabaliw&ndash;hindi natin alam kung ano ba talagang nararamdaman natin. This feeling further intensifies whenever we see that ex interact with our partner. What if mala-Dingdong at Karylle pala sila? What if the universe aligns and they see each other again? Will we be quiet? Will we cry? Will we repost cryptic videos like Marian?
The default response of our mind whenever this happens is comparison and doubt. Mapapatanong talaga tayo kung magkakabalikan ba sila o hindi. Baka naman kasi rebound lang tayo? Are we just a backburner? A stopover instead of the destination? Maybe the &ldquo;character development&rdquo; accusations are real.&nbsp;
We&rsquo;ll never actually know, but one thing&rsquo;s for sure: we&rsquo;re (unfortunately) scared of the person who held a huge chunk of our partners' past. Now the question is, should we really be insecure?
To be honest, it&rsquo;s human to feel a bit uneasy. So, when you see someone who once had your partner&rsquo;s love, attention, or time, your brain starts trying to &ldquo;rank&rdquo; where you stand. But here's the catch: your partner chose you. Not the ex. Not the past. You. That decision alone speaks volumes. If your partner is present, loving, and committed, the past should stay exactly where it is&mdash;in the past.
Then again, sometimes that gut feeling you have isn&rsquo;t just insecurity. If your partner constantly talks about their ex, compares you, or maintains a suspiciously close connection with them, then it&rsquo;s fair to raise questions. There&rsquo;s a difference between feeling a little insecure and sensing that there might still be emotional baggage.
Don&rsquo;t let your imagination create a story that doesn&rsquo;t exist. Before jumping to conclusions, talk to your partner. Communication can clear up 90% of the overthinking.
It&rsquo;s okay to have moments of doubt. What matters is how you handle them. Let your confidence, trust, and communication take the lead. Remember, your partner is with you now, and that&rsquo;s what counts. Their past may be part of their story, but you&rsquo;re the chapter they&rsquo;re writing today.