While friends are typically expected to support and care for one another, there are instances where underlying tensions or negative feelings can develop, leading to a form of quiet hostility &ndash; or subtle animosity. Detecting the latter in someone can be challenging, as it often involves subtle, passive-aggressive behaviors and hidden negative feelings - or mamaya, praning at assuming lang pala tayo.
<h3>Here are some common signs:</h3>
Frequent sarcasm and passive-aggressive remarks
Someone with subtle animosity may use sarcasm and passive-aggressive comments to express their negative feelings indirectly. They might make comments that are disguised as criticisms or they&rsquo;re made as &ldquo;silly&rdquo; jokes.
Ignoring or downplaying achievements
It may be as simple as, "Ako nga, eh..."
They may be reluctant to offer praise, encouragement, or support to the person they have animosity towards; this could be especially noticeable when the other person achieves something noteworthy. More so, they may engage in subtle competition - always trying to outdo the other person or make themselves appear superior in some way.
If someone consistently downplays the achievements or successes of the other person, it may indicate underlying animosity. They might minimize the importance of these accomplishments.
Indifference or aloofness
They may appear indifferent or aloof when in the presence of the person they have animosity towards. This can manifest as disinterest in their life or well-being &ndash; in short, dedma sila sa&rsquo;yo.
Exclusion and inconsistent communication
They might subtly exclude the person from group activities, gatherings, or conversations. They may also go out of their way to make the individual feel left out without even overtly acknowledging it.
There may be inconsistent communication patterns - such as responding slowly to messages, avoiding phone calls, or making excuses to avoid the person.
Backhanded compliments
They might give compliments that contain a hidden insult or criticism. For example, they might say, "Grabe &lsquo;no, ang confident mo mag-post ng selfies sa Instagram?&rdquo; Or, "Ang ganda ng dress mo!" sabay 'pag talikod, "Ang chaka, teh!"
Frequent negative body language
Subtle animosity can manifest through negative body language, such as eye-rolling, sighing, or crossed arms when interacting with the person they have animosity towards.
Also, avoiding direct eye contact during conversations can be a sign of discomfort or negative feelings towards someone.
Or, baka umiiwas ng tingin kasi bet ka. Eme!
Gossip or rumor-spreading
They may engage in chismisan sessions about the person they have negative feelings towards; this is a way to undermine their reputation indirectly. Wala ka sa inuman, pero ikaw ang pulutan!
Campaign lead nga siya, pero sa &ldquo;smear campaign&rdquo; nga lang. Haha! Eme!
Reluctance to resolve conflict
They may avoid addressing conflicts or issues within the relationship. Instead of working toward a resolution, they prefer to maintain a state of tension and discomfort.
So, ayun na nga&hellip;
Despite all these, we should keep in mind that these signs should not be taken as definitive proof of animosity, but rather as possible indicators. It&rsquo;s important to approach these signs with caution and not jump to conclusions.
We should understand that some of these behaviors can be caused by factors other than animosity, such as stress, personal issues, social anxiety, or misinterpretations.
If you suspect someone harbors animosity towards you or someone else, consider having an open and honest conversation to address the issue and seek resolution. Communication is often the key to resolving misunderstandings and solving strained relationships.
<h3>REMEMBER: If a problem is not communicated, there is NO problem.</h3>