It hurts to love someone who only meets you halfway. It&rsquo;s the kind where you&rsquo;re not outright neglected, but you&rsquo;re slowly taught to lower your standards, soften your needs, and silence parts of yourself just so loving you feels &ldquo;easier&rdquo; for them. They don&rsquo;t reach for you&mdash;you&rsquo;re expected to bend closer. They don&rsquo;t rise&mdash;you&rsquo;re asked to crouch. And somehow, you&rsquo;re made to believe that receiving less than the bare minimum is already something you should be grateful for.
You should never have to settle for a love that only gives what it is capable of, especially when that capability falls far below what you deserve. Love is not about doing the least and calling it effort. It is not about convenience, comfort, or staying exactly the same while expecting someone else to adjust endlessly. When someone loves you, they don&rsquo;t just stay where they are and wait for you to meet them there&mdash;they try. They reach. They show up even when it&rsquo;s hard, even when it requires learning, unlearning, and stretching beyond what feels familiar.
Real love does not ask you to bury your needs or the way you feel deeply just to be more &ldquo;digestible.&rdquo; To love someone fully means seeing the scars that come from years of living, and choosing to stay anyway. It means understanding that love isn&rsquo;t just about enjoying the good days, but also holding space for the heavy ones. You don&rsquo;t get to admire the beauty without acknowledging the depth it comes from.
Loving someone the way they deserve to be loved also means loving them the way they want to be loved. That takes effort. That takes intention. Sometimes, that even takes changing parts of yourself&mdash;not losing who you are, but growing beyond who you were for the sake of the relationship. Love means compromise, not sacrifice of self. It means meeting in the middle without asking one person to disappear just to keep the peace.
Settling for a love that demands less from them and more from you will slowly teach you to resent the very parts of yourself that make you love so deeply. And that is never the goal. The goal is a love where effort is mutual, where standards are met with action, and where no one has to shrink to be held. You deserve a love that rises to you&mdash;not one that asks you to lower yourself just to be chosen.
Because love, real love, doesn&rsquo;t make you smaller. It meets you where you are and walks with you all the way across the bridge.